Time to Upgrade

I felt like I wanted to update my blog page, so, I chose a new theme. Now, I’m experimenting with it, trying to figure out all of the nuances, features, widgets.  Good times.  Ok, it’s a little frustrating, but, that’s okay, I’ll figure it out…or eventually ask for help. 🙂 How about you?  Have you updated anything in your life lately?  Maybe you’ve updated your webpage, wardrobe, hair style, teeth (dental work), eyes (glasses, contacts or Lasik), car, kitchen, bathroom, den…?  It’s fun, isn’t it?  Oh, maybe the process isn’t fun, but the end result usually is ‘fantabulous’.  Taking the plunge and deciding to say… go back to school… or take on a major home improvement project … or upgrade your life in general takes ‘chutzpah’.  It also takes patience, time, the process of gathering information, trial & error, and so on.  You’ll have to make decisions and maybe re-work some things but you know what? When you’re all done and you stand back and look at what you’ve accomplished, you’re going be so proud! 

Short & sweet today.

Toodles! ♥

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© KD Corner 2012

Play Dress Up

Hey guys & gals! How’s it going? I hope all is well. Today, let’s talk about dressing up. Why? Well, I’ve read on more than one website that dressing up is one way to pamper yourself. I submit to you that dressing up gives the ol’ ego a boost. You can go all out and dress to the nines or you can just pick something a bit more modest but flattering. But whatever you choose, choose something that makes YOU feel and look good. Some of you may be wondering why I chose to write on this topic. Well, it’s because I believe that sometimes we need to be our own encourager, our own best friend and do something for ourselves that will remind us how special we are. Sometimes it’s nice to indulge just a little.

We, typically, are creatures of habit. We like routine (nothing wrong with that). But sometimes we allow ourselves to get stuck in a rut and we neglect ourselves. We tend to do the same thing day in and day out. It’s good break from the norm and remind ourselves how unique and special we are. And if you’re feeling down, dressing up can really make you feel better. I’ll never forget, when I was a teenager, I was kind of down in the dumps one particular day and that day I happened to talk to my dad. He gave me some advice. He said, “You know, when I feel down, I do something nice for myself. I dress up in my favorite outfit…and it just makes me feel good. Do it for YOU!” So, I tried it. I did my hair in a style I liked, and I wore a favorite dress to school that day, and the compliments I received were really nice (mostly…you know some teen boys are goofs no matter what…lol). Anyway, I remember walking home that day loving the way I looked in my dress and feeling like a million bucks.

So go for it! It can’t hurt. It may seem silly to you, but, don’t knock it till you try it. No, clothing doesn’t make you who you are. But sometimes it’s just a nice treat to ourselves by spending a little time sprucing up. So guys, put on that outfit that makes you look AMAZING and don’t forget a dab of that cologne that smells so great. Spruce up your hair and beard or mustache and go out that day looking & feeling phenomenal. Ladies, maybe wear your hair in your favorite style, paint your nails (if you like) and put on that ensemble that makes you look like a SUPER STAR (because you are) and don’t forget those cute shoes! Then, strut your stuff. Do it first and foremost for yourself. This is just another way to show love to yourself. You’re worth it!  Have a great day!  Let me know how it goes. 😉

Toodles ♥

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© KD Corner 2012

Make Time

Today’s post is short & sweet. Make time for those most important to you. So much of the time we are running around like chickens with our heads cut off, keeping up a very busy pace, always going-going-going. We go to work, meetings, social events, etc. But do we take time to make time for those most important to us…our families and those closest to us?

When your child asks you to play a game, or watch a show with them, or go to the store with them (a store you may not like)…. When your spouse, boyfriend, girl friend or best friend asks you to go to a certain event, or spend some time, but you’re not in the mood…. When your parents or grandparents want you to call or come by to visit, but, you’d rather not…

What do you do? Now, I’m not talking about going into any unhealthy situations. I’m talking about healthy, normal relationships. Are you going to look back on your life and say, “Wow, I wish I had gone to another meeting instead of spending time with my son/daughter.” or “That TV show was waaay more important than spending time with my friend/spouse.” Or “So glad I let my excuses keep me from seeing Grandma before she passed away.” No! Of course not.

Life is a gift and life goes by quickly. I just want to encourage you to make some time for those who matter most to you. Sometimes it takes a sacrifice on your part, perhaps doing something you don’t enjoy, but the other person loves. But when you look back on your life and the choices you made to spend quality time when it counted, you won’t be disappointed. 🙂

Toodles

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C’mon Trust Me

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happy Monday!

Let’s talk about TRUST today. Ooh, fun subject I know!  Wait, wait please keep reading. I know just the word “trust” strikes a negative chord with many people. Immediately there comes to mind that woman, man, friend, foe, coach, teacher, family member that was supposed to be trustworthy and they betrayed your trust. It brings a bitter taste to your mouth. Believe me, though I may not be able to relate with your specific situation, I do know what it’s like to have trust betrayed. We live in an imperfect world, full of imperfect people. When someone who we deem trustworthy betrays our trust, it’s a BIG deal! Scars are left. Walls go up. Hurt & wounded feelings remain and it can take years to heal, depending on the situation and our willingness to go through the healing process.

Mad at God

Bad experiences may negative impact on belief in or trust in God. Because our world is imperfect, when we experience the death of someone close to us or perhaps a situation we were praying about that did not turn out like we thought it should, we blame God and cannot trust Him. We feel He let us down. I don’t pretend to be a theologian and I most definitely do NOT hold all of the answers. I can only speak from my own experience. A couple of times, even as a Christian, I felt as though God totally failed me. I didn’t understand WHY those things happened and WHY He hadn’t answered my prayers and WHY didn’t He step in and save the day, and WHY bother having faith if bad things were going to happen anyway, etc. I had a lot of anger and a lot of questions. I still don’t know all of the answers, but, here are a few things I have learned and re-learned. (1) However you want to say it, we live in an imperfect/sinful/fallen world. And because people aren’t perfect (and unfortunately some people are twisted or have major issues) they choose to do bad things to other people. (2) I cannot control another person’s choices or behavior. Pray as I might that God would intervene and make that person do what’s right… God gave that person a free will, and they can decide to do the opposite of what is good or right, even if the right choice smacks them in the face time & time again. (3) For those of you who aren’t Christian, this may not hold much water, but, I’ll share it nonetheless: In the Bible, God never promises that we will not go through troubling times. In fact, He tells us the opposite. He promises that we WILL go through hard times, but that He will be there WITH us to help us through the difficult times.

I can attest to one particularly heart wrenching situation. I received some bad news about a medical situation. Right in the midst of receiving the news, the strangest and most powerful calm and peace came over me. When by all accounts I should’ve been freaking out, I was enveloped in peace. I had always read the scripture that the “Peace of God which surpasses our understanding, will guard our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” But that was the first time I had truly experienced it. Was that situation automatically fixed? No. In fact, more troubling related incidences occurred afterward. I personally went through a time of anger, frustration, grief and questioning. But, through my lament, I remembered that peace and held on to the promise that one day I would come through this trying time. I did come through it. But it took quite a bit of time. I know that if God had not been there, not to mention supportive friends and family, I would not have come through the situation nearly as well, nor with my faith in tact.

Trusting People Again

Trust is a very difficult thing, especially when it’s been betrayed. And whether your trust issue is with a person or with God (or both), it takes time for trust to be built back up. That person who betrayed your trust will have to work hard to build it back up. They will have to be consistent and patient and understanding. The sad thing is that the person may choose NOT to build that trust again. But, that doesn’t mean that you should allow them to ruin forever your ability to trust anyone. Maybe you’re extremely guarded. Maybe you’re unable to trust right now, and that is okay. It takes time. But, there ARE trustworthy people out there. Just be careful not to equate trustworthiness with perfection…because there are NO perfect people. We all make mistakes. But, there are people, who are indeed good, quality people full of integrity who will exemplify their trustworthiness consistently. The thing that’s hardest to do after betrayal is trust again. Take baby steps. But don’t close yourself off completely from the idea of trusting anyone. You could be missing out on some really great friendships / relationships. If you’ve endured traumatic experiences, it may take a lot of time to heal and even some good quality counseling or support groups to help you work through what you’ve experienced. There is no shame in that. And, if you’ve been hurt by church people let me say that I am so, so sorry! All Christians and churches aren’t bad, I promise. Please remember not to let a few rotten eggs spoil your view of Christianity or church.

Forgiving God?

If you feel as though God has let you down, there’s no easy answer. For ourselves and our inner peace, we may have to go through the process of forgiving God. Yes, I said it.  For all of my Christian friends, yes, God is unfailing and without sin.  But, if we’ve felt let down or betrayed by him, we have to do a work in our own hearts and go through the process to forgive God for wherever we feel He’s let us down.  We have to cleanse our hearts of bitterness.  For everyone,  I’d say to pray sincerely (your prayers matter and God hears them) and read the Bible for yourself. God truly loves you, more than you can imagine. There ARE credible and reliable teachers of the Bible out there. There are radio and TV ministries as well…find the good ones. The more CORRECT teaching you can get about God and the Bible, the better your understanding will be. If you still decide that you hate God and will never trust Him or you just don’t care for Him very much. Okay. But I pray that one day you’ll come to know His immense, intense and unending love for you.

You are loved.
Toodles ♥

Just a few supporting scriptures: John 16:33 and Psalm 34:18 and Philippians 4:7

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Reaching Beyond Ourselves

Recently I heard a story of a young girl (15 years old) who committed suicide because she felt trapped by her past mistakes.  It had to do with content she posted when she was a bit younger – in ignorance – that followed and plagued her no matter where she went.  To add on to her struggles, she also had an unfortunate interaction with a young man who preyed on her naïveté and low self-esteem.  The boy had a girlfriend who beat up this young lady.  The result was that the school at large turned against her, telling her she was worthless and that she should end her life, which eventually she did.  She apparently left behind a youtube video chronicling her struggles and asking for help.  My heart broke for this young lady.  Yes, she made some foolish decisions, but, who of us hasn’t? The difference is that maybe your blunders (mercifully) didn’t have such a large audience.  So, we shouldn’t throw stones.  Instead we should have compassion.  And if you cannot personally relate, then think of your kids, nephews, nieces, god-children, grandkids, neighbors, friends, etc. These kids matter and they are our future. 

I shared the story of this young lady with someone of that age group, who quickly informed me that there are many similar videos on the web, some of which I viewed.  There are so many young people who have been bullied, verbally abused and publicly or privately humiliated/berated on a consistent basis.  This hurts my heart.  I do not understand people (no matter what the age) who want to hurt other people.  How can people treat others so cruelly?  Whoever said “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me” obviously didn’t realize the falsehood of this statement.  Words CAN & DO hurt.  But what can be done?  I wanted to reach through the screen of each of those videos and tell each of those kids how special & important they are!  That they DO matter and they have lots to offer!

We don’t realize the power we have within our reach to positively influence someone else.  Maybe just a word from you makes the difference in someone’s life for the better.  Maybe if we start spreading more genuine kindness and care for our fellow-man, we can counteract all of the hate and poison that is spewed out by the negative people of this world.  I heard about a young man who uses his Twitter account to say nothing but positive and encouraging things and that he has tons of followers!  Sounds like there are a lot of people out there who need those words of hope … words that build up instead of tear down.

Maybe you don’t have a master plan or even a large platform from which you can effect change worldwide, but you don’t have to.  There are people all around you every day with whom you come in contact.  Start there.  No, not everyone may not appreciate your random acts of kindness, but, keep on sharing and caring.  It WILL make a positive difference in this and the next generation.

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The Process

Hi everyone! I’m super so-so sorry I’ve been away for a bit. Honestly things have been a teensy bit busy of late. And in my quieter moments, I’ve wanted to write, but, hadn’t the foggiest notion what I could write to inspire you. I definitely didn’t want to write ‘fluff’, but at the same time, I need to continue to hone my writing/blogging skills, so I should be writing more regularly…at least that’s the goal.

So…how’ve you all been? I really want to know, so feel free to send me a note at any time.

Me? I’ve been trying to navigate the mystery that is my life. Haha! Searching for purpose, deeper meaning, etc. By that, I mean I’ve been pretty much bugging God for what I’m supposed to be doing here (I mean…other than the obvious job of being a parent). I think I’m in a season of quiet. Yep, calm, quiet and BORING! Lol. Well, it seems pretty boring especially compared to some other folks I know. BUT,  I just posted on my personal facebook page about how not to compare ourselves with others. It was pretty good, if I must say so myself. Honestly it felt like I was preaching to myself.  And oh boy, I needed it!  So, I can’t really take the credit for it. I totally prayed for what I should write and it just flowed. (Thanks God).

I feel like I’m in God’s waiting room…. or something like that. You know how you’re in the middle of SOMETHING and you can’t figure out what the heck it is, but you know in your gut (and sometimes see little hints) that God is totally in control and he’s working some stuff OUT of you that needs to be out, and INTO you that needs to be in. (I’m pretty sure that was really bad English, but, you get my drift.)

So, that’s where I am. I’m learning to trust the process. Ugh. I don’t like it, but I know the end of this is going to be something really good!

Toodles! ♥