Life

Life is multifaceted.
We juggle wants and needs, responsibility and desires, practicality and extravagance,
and everything in between.
We give large parts of ourselves to different things at different times.
It’s easy to feel like life is a constant struggle for balance.
Many times we tend to feel as though we’re wasting our time with mundane responsibilities,
often feeling trapped by them.
But, BEAUTY is not only found in the things that spark joy and passion in us.
Beauty can also be found in the daily grind, in the fulfilling of our duties, in the handling of our responsibilities.
We show up. We work hard. We provide for families. We care for loved ones.
There is honor in that. And we must include it in the totality of who we are.
Our lives ebb and flow, twist and turn, are unbalanced and balanced again.
We have seasons where certain things take up more space in our lives than others.
Sometimes things we want to do or be are delayed due to these life circumstances.

But, that doesn’t mean that we can never have those things or dreams that spark joy in us?
We absolutely can! But we must be mindful of the full picture. The fruition of things is often seasonal and the timing is rarely in our control.

Life is not one thing OR another. It is the summation of all things together. So, when we look at life, we should not define it by just ONE thing, aspect or season only.

Maybe life is less about “settling for mediocrity” or resigning ourselves to our “lot in life”.
Likewise, maybe it’s less about being fulfilled only if we have everything we want.
Instead, maybe it’s more about embracing the WHOLE experience, in all its many facets.
Maybe it’s about redefining our expectations of what life “should be” and embracing ALL of what it is.
Maybe it’s about recognizing and respecting the season we’re in, and flowing WITH it, not against it.

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©2019 Life Together with Kay Dee “Life” by Kay Dee

Why Be Surprised?

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I was inspired to write this poem from having listened to Taylor Swift’s song “Shake it off” and from random life events (not just mine).

Why Be Surprised? By KD

Players will play
Haters will hate
Dogs will be dogs
Fakers will be fake

Snakes will be snakes
Cheaters will cheat
And they’ll do it all
Without skipping a beat

Liars will lie
The shady will hide
There are those who will leave
Without saying goodbye

So why be surprised?
Why be shocked?
When arrogant egotists
Act like painted peacocks

Or when snakes choose to bite
And dogs sniff elsewhere
Wolves in sheeps clothing
Use people without a care

Don’t expect different
From those who have shown
The same “ratchet” behavior
You’ve already come to know

People who WANT to change
Make efforts to so do
They don’t sit around
And make an excuse

The moral of this story
Is simple yet wise
When people show their true colors
Don’t be surprised

Chances are that they’ve been showing you
All along
But maybe you had
Your blinders on

What flows out of a person
Is what’s in the heart.
A person can only act like
What they truly are.

(*ratchet – Used here as the slang term meaning tasteless, unseemly, uncouth and the like.)

© 2015 KD Corner/ KD “Why Be Surprised?”

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Moments of Clarity – Karate Kid Lessons

Do you ever have those “moments of clarity”, when all of a sudden you “get” (understand) at least partially why your life is going a certain way (and that way is usually in complete contrast to your desires)?

Yeah, me too.
I personally think God allows us these mini “a-ha” moments so that we don’t lose heart altogether. Like for me, recently, through a series of events (including my personal prayer time, etc.) I was clearer on certain things. I said to my self, “Ohhhhhh!!! Yeah! I get it.” And then I was super happy because I felt like I “had a clue” for once.

The problem with this…at least for people like me, is this — We want to put these revelatory moments on “continuous play” all day, every day.  However, these moments of revelation serve their purpose to enlighten and then they are done. Now, armed with this new knowledge, you have to move forward in the drudgery of daily life operating on such knowledge until the next “a-ha” moment. I don’t know about you, but, sometimes I’d like an ‘IV drip’ of that euphoric feeling [and no, not by anything artificial or illegal]. I just wish you could feel that natural excitement of having learned or realized something new…on a continuous basis.  But, that’s not life, is it? Much of life is just plain old …plain. Or maybe better words would be – uneventful, normal, status quo. It’s just life.

Not always fun.
But it’s reality.

Many times I remind others that your seasons of “waiting” are training ground for learning many lessons that will prepare you for the next season of your life (whatever that may be). It’s hard when we don’t see the point of the lessons. If you’re an old school movie buff, take the ORIGINAL Karate Kid movie. The main character Daniel wanted to learn karate because he was being bullied. He found out the maintenance man at his apartment complex (Mr. Miyagi) knew karate because he came to Daniel’s rescue when Daniel was being jumped by a group of kids one night. After this incident, Mr. Miyagi took Daniel to confront the bullies at the local dojo and tried to make peace. This request was flatly rejected by the sensei.  Therefore Mr. Miyagi came up with ‘plan B’.  He offered that Daniel would enter a tournament to compete against the students who beat him up, in a fair environment.  The proposition was that the bullying would cease so that Daniel could train. This was agreed to.

Mr. Miyagi then began to “train” Daniel at his house by way of making him do certain chores on his property. But, Daniel had to do the chores in a certain manner, with particular movements. Daniel didn’t see the point of all of this. He got fed up after a few days. His shoulder was hurting and he was exhausted. He decided to confront Mr. Miyagi about it and then he intended to quit. He quite disrespectfully told off Mr. Miyagi and complained that he was supposed to be learning karate instead of cleaning his property.  Mr. Miyagi got Daniel’s attention by healing the shoulder on the spot.  Daniel was dumbfounded.  Mr. Miyagi proceeded to tell Daniel “…Show me ‘wax on, wax off'”, “show me ‘paint the fence'”. The specific movements Mr. Miyagi taught Daniel while working, were in fact karate movements to Daniel’s amazement. You saw the “lights go on” for Daniel.

In this process of continued training, he teaches Daniel that karate is not about beating people up, it’s about discipline and respect among other things.

What “pointless”, mundane, every day chores or duties are you handling at this present time in your life and you don’t see the purpose for them? Like Daniel, you even get angry and yell, “I can’t do this anymore. I quit!” And you try to find an alternative route that ends up being more messy or harmful than helpful. However, these seasons have a purpose. The skills you are learning now may seem extremely useless. But, as you move forward, and are allowed bits of revelation along the way, things will become clearer, and they will come together at the right time.  For example, you will see how organizing those luncheons will teach you about organizing larger events. Or perhaps you will see how managing that small group of diverse personalities will help you to manage an more expansive and more diverse group of people later on.

You are working toward your goal, but, the fruition of that goal may not yet be possible because you haven’t yet acquired all of the necessary skills, tools and knowledge to step into that new season of your life. My friends, God will move you into that season at the right time. He knows when, where and how to bring it all together. If you don’t believe in God, that’s fine. But the principle remains. Your periods of waiting have purpose even if you do not yet see what that purpose is. They are preparing you for greater good and if you do not learn these lessons now, how will you then function fully in the place where God is leading you, or where you are supposed to be?

For Christians, trust God knowing there is a purpose in this waiting season.
For non-Christians, still, remember this process has a purpose in order for you to get where you need to be.

I would be remiss if I didn’t post the “wax on, wax off” clip.  Enjoy! And BE ENCOURAGED!

“Not everything is as seem…” – Mr. Miyagi

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© KD Corner 2014 “Moments of Clarity – Karate Kid Lessons”

When Life Is Quiet

 

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When Life is Quiet by KD

When life is quiet
And the phone doesn’t ring
It may feel as if the birds do not sing
Remember you’re not alone

When life is quiet
By your own design
You’ve purposely left some things behind
Remember you’re not alone

When life is quiet
And friends let you down
You look, but they are not to be found
Remember you’re not alone

For in the quiet of life
We learn to hear again
We learn to see again
We remember the sound of our own voice
We remember who we are
We become re-focused
We cry tears long held in
We release burdens long weighing us down
We heal

©2014 KD Corner / KD “When Life Is Quiet”

Gone Too Soon (a poem)

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This is for my friends who’ve lost a dear loved one.

Gone Too Soon by K.D.

Nothing fully prepares us
For the passing of someone dear
The news comes like a piercing sound
Foreign to the ear

Even if we were forewarned
Of what was to occur
It doesn’t ease the pain
It doesn’t quell the hurt

Sometimes it blindsides us
Nothing we would expect
It shakes us and it breaks us
We’ve no chance to object

We’re left reeling from the shock
Staggering from the sting
Trying to make sense
Of all that’s happening

Wondering how we’ll make it
Without their presence near
Questioning how we’ll go on
Through the ache and through the fear

Knowing somehow we must proceed
But still not sure quite how
Going through the motions
Is how we function now

One second, hour, day at a time
That’s how you make it through
You say, “I can’t ever see
How I will make it without you?”

“But, this one thing I have
That no one can tear apart
Is the memory I hold of you
Close within my heart.”

So, with memories so precious
We go forward day by day
Honoring the one we love
In a special way

Their presence will be missed
Their absence has left a void
But their deposit into our lives
Has left an undeniable joy

And as we live each day
Holding the gift of them in our hearts
We honor their very essence
A love that won’t depart

©2014 KD Corner / K.D. “Gone Too Soon (a poem)”

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Build On It!

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What are you already doing? Build on it!

So many times we become discouraged in the work we’re doing. Perhaps it hasn’t yielded the ‘crop’ or the ‘dream’ that we envisioned or expected, but, does that mean it’s not growing? No! Now, the exception would be if you know beyond the shadow of a doubt that something is dead/not growing/not producing. That’s different. BUT, If you know it’s not dead, then, KEEP YOUR DREAM ALIVE! I submit to you that: SLOW growth doesn’t mean NO Growth, so keep going!!!

Sometimes it takes a time of rest and some new perspective to fully see the impact that you’re having on this world. For instance, I have this blog and a few blogs on Facebook, and I try to post inspirational messages & helpful information. I have a fledgling business and also am in the process of writing a couple of books. I began to become somewhat discouraged because I didn’t feel like I was seeing the fruits of my labor. Were people being positively impacted? The responses have been sparse, but there. Will my books make a difference? Will my business take off? Etc.

But, God really opened my eyes to see that YES the impact is THERE. You cannot always SEE the rewards of your labor right away. How does a plant grow from a seed? First you must plant the seed in the soil, water and care for it and WAIT. Then the seed sprouts and you must fertilize and water it, and make sure the plant receives sunlight. It grows. But you have to keep taking care of it. It doesn’t spring up into a massive, leafy, lush, gorgeous plant overnight! No. BUT with steady care and time it WILL if you don’t give up!  Remember, it may be a slow process, but you are STILL PROGRESSING. Baby steps are better than no steps at all. 🙂  Steady progress is progress.

So, my question to you is this?
What are you doing right now? What are you doing that perhaps you’ve let languish or perhaps the fizzle has gone out of due to discouragement? Let me tell you something…WHAT YOU’RE DOING MAKES A DIFFERENCE EVEN IF YOU CAN’T SEE IT YET.

BUILD on what you started. In due season, in due time, you will see the impact you’re doing/making.
And don’t despise the day of small beginnings. People are watching you. People are being impacted by your words and your love and your care and your giving of yourself. They may not always say it, but, trust me, they are feeling the positive effects of what you’re giving.
“Do not despise the day of small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin” (Zech. 4:10).
And when you DO get those 1 or 2 people who come to you and say “Hey, what you said really helped me” or “Thanks you brought a smile to my face”, then REJOICE! YOU ARE MAKING AN IMPACT. And impacts reverberate! Like a pebble dropped into a large body of water, impacts have a RIPPLE EFFECT! Yes!

Keep going!
Love to y’all!

© 2013 KD Corner “Build On It!”
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